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April 07, 2008

And What I've Been Right About? EVERYTHING ELSE

Setting:  My kitchen, doing dinner prep last Monday.

Me:  (peeling asparagus) (which makes it SO tender, be sure and try it next time) Hey, I had THE best workout today. 

Fletch:  Yeah?  What'd you do?

Me:  Well, when I walked into the gym trainers Tino and Mike greeted me by saying, "One thousand!"  So I was all, "One thousand!" back to them, figuring it was some expression I'd never heard.  Then I see Barbie and she explains we're going to do a one-thousand rep workout, meaning ten exercises one hundred times each.  And not easy exercises - I'm talking lunges and squats and stuff.

Fletch: (emptying the dishwasher) I bet that went over well with you.

Me:  Riiight.  When Barbie told me about the hundred push-ups, I was, like, "What, am I in the Army now?"

Fletch:  (shoulders still sore from three years worth of military service) You know nothing of push ups.

Me:  Whatev.  Anyway, I knew I was going to have a super-tough day so I bought an energy drink.  I expected it to have the Hot Orange Death flavor like the Ripped to the Max stuff I bought last summer, but it was good.  I mean, SO good I would drink it just to drink it.  Plus, it gave me so many strongs that not only did I complete my thousand reps, but then I burned another 1020 calories on the treadmill afterward, with running and everything!  I mean, seriously, one thousand reps AND one thousand calories?  That shit is AMAZING.

Fletch:  Impressive!  What'd you drink?  Liquid amphetamines?

Me:  Practically.  What I had was TnTea, lemon flavor. 

Fletch:  (pauses with a clean colander in his hand)  You're kidding. 

Me:  Um, no.  Why would I kid about an energy drink?

Fletch:  (incredulous) TnTea.

Me:  Yep.

Fletch:  You realize TnTea is the supplement I used all summer.  Remember?  I kept trying to get you to taste it because I thought you'd like it and you flat-out refused.  Why?  Why would you refuse? 

Me:  Huh.  Must have thought it looked yucky.  Yet I was so very wrong.

Fletch:  (sputtering)  But!  But!  You wouldn't even take a sip.  Not one goddamned sip.

Me:  And too bad for me because it was delicious!  It gave me so much energy!  I'm actually still vibrating like a hummingbird.

Fletch:  (in a bit of a lather, if you want to know the truth)  So why would you not even TASTE it? 

Me:  (rinsing the asparagus) I dunno.

Fletch:  Even after I PROMISED you you'd like it?  We got to the point I told you I'd give you a dollar or let you take a swing at me if you didn't.

Me:  (shrugs) Beats me.  Maybe you should have been more persistent.

Fletch:  Short of pouring it down your throat, I could not have been more persistent.

Me:  Yet it's a shame I didn't try it sooner because I loved it!

Fletch:  (bangs head against cabinet)

* * *

The point of this little vignette is twofold - first, it demonstrates exactly how stubborn I am when I believe I'm right.  Second, the fact I'm such a good sport when finally proved wrong makes me all the more aggravating.  So, in the spirit of not annoying the bejesus out Fletch and others (and before my stupid opinions/actions become an issue) I'm publicly admitting I was wrong about the following:

* Purchasing an entire case of Hot Orange Death-flavored Ripped to the Max.   

* Promising I'd use our treadmill every day.  (In my defense I would have, if the basement didn't smell so much like pee.)

* Insisting we purchase TV trays (now languishing in the pee-pee basement next to the lonely, pristine treadmill) because I didn't realize I'd rather eat off a real table or the ottoman.

* Putting fancy underwear on the cover of the new book.  Apparently a number of people (who aren't me) find products from places like La Perla and Victoria's Secret and Cosabella and Agent Provocateur appealing.  Huh.  Who knew?

* The Indianapolis 500, which takes place at the end of May every year... except on a leap year and maybe I should have actually looked at the calendar rather than just calling my publicist in a huge panic about Indy hotel rooms.  (Fletch gets partial blame for this one.)

* Jean jackets.  But not Crocs.  Crocs still ROCK. 

* Two and a Half Men, which I refused to watch for five years, despite my father insisting it's the funniest show on television.  (BTW, the crush I developed on Charlie Sheen in the '80s?  Is back.  Hard.  Also?  I'm delighted to see how well Jon Cryer has aged in comparison to Andrew McCarthy, who appears to have been let out of his crypt to film Lipstick Jungle.  Oh, Duckie, Molly Ringwald would totally choose you now.)

* Organic produce and dairy.  Also?  Anything soy-based.   

* Letting the book Middlesex sit on my shelf for two years because I thought it looked dull.  (And what's more boring than Pulitzer Prize-winning novels about hermaphrodites?  Um, everything, that's what.)

* Chicken Cacciatore, which Fletch tricked me into eating by calling it "Hunter's stew," only revealing its true name/nature after I'd licked the plate clean.

* Thinking I'd be happier watching Flavor of Love 3 in high-def.  (I have one word for you - SPITTLE.  High-def Flavor Flav spittle.  Gah.)

And... I think that's everything.  Now it's your turn - what would you like to publicly admit you've been wrong about?  Pilates?  Recycling?  Finally buying pants one size up?  Rock the Cradle or any other fine, fine VH1 programming?

The comments section awaits your confessions.      

P.S.  One thousand reps followed by eighty minutes/one thousand calories in the same session?  Justine can SUCK IT.

   

Comments

Wait...you DON'T have to spend $25 for good mascara? What kind do you buy? Honestly, you don't end up buying 4 of them and throwing 3 away, thus spending $25 to find a good $7 tube of mascara?

So do tell...WHAT KIND?

1. The marriage guaranteed happiness.
2. That b/c i'm un-athletic, i'm excused from working out. That weight's not losin itself!
3. That younger men (late 20 somethings)were off limits. My younger man rocks my world. I'm 39. Take THAT!
4. Diet Coke - happily addicted
5. Turning 40 = giving up. No sir. My sisters both looked better on their 40th birthdays than they had in the past 20 years.

Still speed as fast as possible past two and a half men, but admit I have never seen it.

Ditto on not watching Buffy until it was over. That makes me sad as I've now watched all seven seasons and Angel. Twice.

That there was no difference between cheap and expensive vodka.

That I would never end up with an office job

That I would look good as a blonde

That I would never be middle aged with short hair (see above comment about being blonde)

Cell phones. I resisted cell phones for YEARS insisting that I had no need to be that reachable. Now? We don't even have land lines - just cells.

And crocs. I made fun of them. A lot. Now? I may not wear them in public a lot but I lurve them at home. So comfy.

Children. I thought they were all evil. Turns out mine is incredibly cute and only evil on occasion.

Rodeo's- I made fun of them for years and the whole culture. I went to my first one over the weekend. RODEO'S ARE AWESOME! Strapping a 4-year-old to a sheep and watching them get thrown around...I ask you, what could be better?

Note: No 4-year-olds were actually harmed. They made them wear little helmets.

Cheesecake - couldn't imagine that mac & cheese, grilled cheese, etc, could be so good that cheese could be the main ingredient in dessert, too!

IPODS - Got one 2 weeks ago after wanting to watch the Eckart Tolle / Oprah podcasts. Now,I have it 1/2 full of cool podcast classes from Harvard, Yale, etc. all free downloads!

Ashton Kutcher - I still don't think he's handsome, but I accidentally watched one of his movies that was so not me and liked it. It was something about going back & trying to alter the past.

And last,

Jen's books. The covers were too not intellectual for my Pulitzer & National Book Award tastes in reading! :)

I was wrong about thinking that being a stay at home mom would be easy and all the time I would have I could get EVERYTHING done! Yeah right.

Law school...I should have become a doctor, people respect doctors :)

Hmmm...what have I been wrong about? Here are just a few:

1. That there are actually smart people on this planet, somewhere.
2. That going to Punxatawney on Groundhog's Day would be fun. (FYI, the REAL town is NOTHING like how it is portrayed in the movie, and, it's hard to clean puke off of your shoe.)
3. That I would be a size 10 by this June. (I would even be happy with a size 12--A SIZE 12!!)
4. That there are responsible motorists on the road who know how to properly operate a motor vehicle AND who care enough about themselves and other people to drive safely.
5. The Pittsburgh Pirates. (Need I say more?)

:)

Thinking I could get away with a small wedding ceremony because most people are bored at weddings and it's all about the reception anyway. I now have people threatening to crash the ceremony -- I'm going to have to hire bouncers!

So much for "it's your wedding, do it your way"!!! What a bunch of BS. What people really mean is, "if I don't like your plans, I'll just do what I want anyway" ARGH!

I was wrong thinking that I could always have my house somewhat in order, despite the fact that I have two very piggy sons and a total packrat for a husband, and two part time jobs. I now go through life kicking the big things into corners and picking up the small things that hurt to step on, and throwing them in the trash. About once a month I go through the house with a giant hefty bag and purge the clutter. No one ever misses what I've tossed. There's just way too much junk in everyones lives.

Ummmm....I was wrong about video games. I learned to love them since my husband played them. Now we fight over who gets the Wii & who gets the DS.

Also that someday my mother-in-law would stop being such a bitch. Since the first time we met she's had this thing where she hugs me really tight & then says something nasty about me in my ear so nobody else can hear it. I thought maybe she'd stop after she got to know me. Oh no now she makes comments about how fat I am etc so that the whole family can hear. Oh well I'm getting the best revenge...I'm sleeping w/her son!

Well, this wasn't the last thing I was wrong about, but the thing I was MOST wrong about was Ronald Reagan. In 1980, I was a typical teenager who knew everything and I insisted loudly to everyone who would listen how awful he'd be for the country. Eight years later with a restored economy, restored military, and most of all, restored morale, I had to admit I was wrong-wrong-wrong. Papa, I don't think I said, "I love you", near enough.

I was wrong about:

-Buying makeup at a drug/discount store. Oh...you mean you don't have to spend $25 on a good mascara? Who knew? (But I will not cave on my opinion of Great Lash--I just don't get the hype about that).

I didn't want a "wedding," just wanted to be married to my beloved. I'd have been happy with just a handful of people there as witnesses, no fuss, no fancy dress, no major attention.

It didn't quite turn out that way ... It was a 120-person party, mostly his family and friends, it's true, but a lot of fun and a beautiful garden ceremony and terrific bash.

Who knew that a few months later his mom would have a heart attack? Or that a year later she'd have a second cardiac operation? Or that his dad would be dead before our fifth anniversary?

While there were other weddings after ours, the others had a sense of caution and fear masked by joy, as we all hoped some very special people would hold up through the celebrations.

The big party I didn't think I wanted turned out to be the last time we were all naively happy.

I was wrong about Harry Potter.

And guacamole.

Blogs.

Addicted to jennsylvania.com and

fermentedfur.com

(FF led me to jennsylvania and all her books!!!)

Facebook - not just for self-absorbed high school kids. Also for self-absorbed 20-somethings who think they are clever. I LOVE thinking up witty tag lines for my page and thinking about how ohmygod cute that new picture will be as my profile pic

Miller Lite - it's still watery and funky-tasting and cheap but it's also CHEAP! $2 at the local bar?? LOVE IT!

I'm still not wrong about Crocs and Crackberries...hate them both even if they are fabulous. I refuse to like either one!

Every time I drink an entire bottle of wine on a worknight and believe that a hangover is just mind over matter.

I want to jump on the bandwagon, but I just can't THINK of anything.
I guess that's it then.

Middlesex was an awesome book. I was right to read it BEFORE Oprah got a hold of it and sounded off about it. Somehow, even though she makes millions and has as army of adoring fans...I win. Ha. Take that.

I was so wrong about Lost. I thought it was a passing phase. Then the Netflix queu got a little lean so I decided to check it out. Hooked. Done.

I was wrong about Britney. I really thought her latest album was going to be great and she would return to us. Clearly, that did not happen.

Spanish rice (delicious)
Red Bull (NOT delicious, except with vodka)
SOBE Green Tea with Malibu rum (each delicious separately but the combo? not so much)
The music of Kate Nash (she is FABULOUS and ADORABLE and NOT a British chick-rock-Amy-Winehouse-wannabe-minus-the-crack-problem as my morning radio DJS so WRONGLY accused her of being)

The Real World/Road Rules Challenge. For over a year, my husband tried to sell it by pointing out that it was the most ridiculous of reality stars, all in one place, competing against each other. I kept responding it sounded lame. Turns out it is, in fact, truly amazing in its self-centered ridiculousness. It makes me laugh REALLY hard.

dry wine: love it. Still need a good dark beer most of the time, but if I'm trying to act like a grown up, then it's a nice merlot.

3 cats is not too many: 'nuff said. I love them all but DAMN! that's a lot of poop.

tanning: still do it but the skin just isn't what it used to be. This can't possibly have anything to do with the fact that it (the skin, not the spirit) is turning 50 in June.

Just wanted to say THANK YOU for the links section. I discovered dadgonemad... that guy is funny! Where on earth do you find these people?

I was wrong to think that college would actually help me decide what I wanted to be when I grow up. I graduated from college last May and what is my profession? I'm a nanny for a 6 month old baby-- Which pretty much means I take naps all day. This has led to my mother sending me 10 e-mails a day with various jobs in an effort to "motivate me to be a contributing member of society." Whatever THAT is supposed to mean.

I was wrong when I was in high school and said that I would never be in a sorority. That lasted for all of week when I got to college, and I am now proud to admit that I was in fact a college sorority girl.

Also, I was wrong to say that I would never be one of those people who watches reality TV. Am obsessed with the Real Housewives of Orange County, and much to my dismay, The Hills. It's like a trainwreck you just can't help but watch!

Love your books and you! I recently found your blog and must admit that I check it everyday.

I was wrong when I thought that divorced women were all bleached-blonde men chasers, and somehow inferior to us then-married girls. Nope, some of us are brunette.

Then I was wrong when I thought that still-married couples were happy just because they were smiling in public.

I was sooo wrong when I thought that dating again would be some cool adventure. But 45 ain't 20.


I was wrong........
1. about i-pods. Have to have them while traveling, at they gym and at WalMart (becuase I don't want to listen to your screaming kids or your cell phone conversation about last night's date).
2. Grey's Anatomy. Can't believe it took me 2 seasons to catch on to this. I love it and tomorrow night it returns for brand new episodes! I'm so excited I could practically pee my pants!
3. That cooking is hard and I can live forever on meatless spaghetti and mac & cheese. Turns out following a recipe is pretty easy and now I kick ass in the kitchen!
4. Low carb. Can taste good and is good for you. The pounds are melting away!
5. Real Housewives of NYC. Hate it. But much like a car wreck, I cannot look away. I miss my ladies from the OC!
6. Blogs. I am addicted to say the least!
7. Myspace. Not only for kids. Great way to keep in touch w/friends long distance without using my cell phone minutes or spending hours every day e-mailing. Plus there's friends like you on there!
8. Cats. And dogs. Not dirty after all. I have one of each with plans to get one more of each very soon. They are friendly and playful and so much company! They love you no matter what.
9. Sushi and Thai food. Yum.
10. Crocs. Not loving them 100% yet but I own one pair for going to the tanning bed and they are growing on me. Still not a fan of wearing them when you are not otherwise mowing the lawn or emptying the trash.

I was wrong...three dogs is too many.
I have a 65 pound mix named Manny and I live with my brother who has a 90+ pound black lab named Brady. Recently I decided to foster a little 45 pound lab mix named Willy.
I think it took about 2 hours and a wake up to realize, huh this was not quite as easy as I thought. I would have to take Willy on a 20 minute walk in the morning before work to practice his training. (When I got the very sad looks from Manny and Brady as I left on a walk with only Willy I explained to them, 'If you want Willy out of here, I have to do this' Not that they didn't get along--well Manny did spend a lot time under the dining room table, but really they just wanted all the attention back on them) Then I would have to feed Willy and Manny, give Manny his pills for anxiety and for joint issues, get myself shower and ready for work, put Willy in the crate with a kong full of peanut butter, boost Manny onto the bed (Manny had his hip replaced two years ago and has been working the sympathy ever since) and give Brady a "treasure hunt" of biscuits--this was all before 8:30 and my work day started.

wrong about:
- LOST and 24. Total show obsessions.
- P90X. Infomercials can be REAL & GOOD!
- CROCS & UGGS. Hated until I put them on my feet. Totally in love.
- DITTO JUSTIN TIMBERLAKE!!! Totally in love, too.
- Saying No. It rocks. And I don't mean to martinis or camel lights. To people asking you to "volunteer" or "help out".

I was wrong about ipods. I used to say, "that's a want not a need" about this small piece of technology. I received a super-cute, green nano from santa this year and despite the fact that I'm about 4 years late to the party, I simply LOVE it! :) It's a must-have item for air travel!

What stores sell the TN Tea?

I was wrong...
- to think, back in 1995, I'd never be the kind of dork to email someone who sat 10 feet away from me at work.
- in 2003, to think I'd never be the kind of dork to IM someone wh sat 10 feet away from me at work.
- in 2004, to think I'd never be that annoying person who shares cute stories about their kids with child-free co-workers who obviously don't care (I DO share because my kids are SOOO adorable sometimes!)
- vowing I'd never sign a preschooler up for any kind of organized lessons, believing kids should just play play play. Turns out gymnastics is a sanity saver and I'll pay for it.
- vowing I'd never "farm out" parenting and be a SAHM. Turns out I make more money than my husband, really enjoy my job, and my kids love their teachers and friends and I've learned so much from the people who work with my kids all day.
- back in college thinking I shouldn't major in something I like and do well because that felt like "cheating" so I picked a major that was more challenging (read "something I'm bad at")... took a long time to understand it's not cheating to do things you're good at!

Rock of Love is my current TV crack. Oh Brett Michaels, what happened to you? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE stop with the plastic surgery already! Also, Justine sucks, and she can take an entire day to kiss my fat kiester too!

I am always optimistic and can enjoy a wide variety of shows, music food.... sometimes optimism can be a bad thing...

I have been wrong about:

1) Hiring people in my extended social circle to perform services like woodworking, decorating, real estate sales!!! They say it is a bad idea and despite my belief that I am a good judge of character-- I have three bad experiences to prove otherwise.
2) All natural peanut butter - McYuck
3) Betallica (the band). They sing classic re-cut Beatles songs in the voice of Metallica's lead singer James Hatfield. These guys are hysterical-- and it is actually good music.
4) The Nutrisystem diet- they taste like army MREs.

Grey's Anatomy. I totally dissed my friend and told her I had "no time" for a new show. Then had to rent the first 2 seasons back to back to catch up (and was more than a little sad when I had to wait like everyone else for the next new episode)!
Also, deciding that yes, me and my friend could re-do my bathroom which started in November and still is not complete.
Reading Lonesome Dove and the Mitford Series. I totally hate westerns and who would think a book about a small town Episcopal priest could be even remotely interesting? Well, I couldn't put all 800+ pages of Dove down and have since read and am now re-reading the Mitford books.

That I could get a great job with a liberal arts education. Lesson learned when I ended up going back to school for a business degree. Now if I could only learn how to pay off those student loans...

I too was wrong about Lost. But now that The Wire has ended, I've been watching it like a gotdamn FIEND! Almost finished with the second season! WOOT!

I also want to say that I LOVE when you get us to share different things in the comments section. It really makes the blog so much more fun!

You are SO right about the creepy appearance of the apparently moisturizer-challenged Andrew McCarthy (who used to be so, so very cute ... sigh) ... especially in hi-def! And, while I am snarking in the general direction of Lipstick Jungle, hi-def also shows that even the best and most costly self-preservation processes known to mankind have not saved Brooke Shields from crow's feet! Vengeance is mine!!! But most of all, I must ask -- what the hell is up with Lindsay Price and Kim Raver's noses? Are these two examples of rhinoplasty gone terribly, disfiguringly wrong or can they really both have been born that way???

I was wrong to think I could ever get along with my mother-in-law, a classic borderline personality and all-around looney bitch.

She missed our wedding, called me the "N" word and then had the nerve to say I wasn't dark enough to be offended after she said it (my mom is white, my dad is black - apparently I didn't pass her color test.)

Needless to say, I'm now okay with the fact that I will never have a relationship with my son's grandmother. And I don't regret telling her to get mental help...and to go to hell. :)

I was wrong to think I could ever get along with my mother-in-law, a classic borderline personality and all-around looney bitch.

She missed our wedding, called me the "N" word and then had the nerve to say I wasn't dark enough to be offended after she said it (my mom is white, my dad is black - apparently I didn't pass her color test.)

Needless to say, I'm now okay with the fact that I will never have a relationship with my son's mother. And I don't regret telling her to get mental help...and to go to hell. :)

Oh boy, this is gonna take some thought and about two reams of college-ruled paper. I'll get back to you on this one.

And why do you have to post such great THOUGHT PROVOKERS that then cause me to read each and every single one of the comments and then THINK about the people who divvy up their skittles and m&Ms into colors, or swipe their pits 11 times each? I cannot get your readers OUT OF MY MIND!!!!!!!!!!!!

And now, every time I do something quirky, I think, "Oh, I should have told Jen that one!"

I was wrong about jeans.

I was a Catholic school kid, so uniforms until I went to college, and I only owned 2 pair. Got rid of them after college (I like skirts. don't judge) and I always thought jeans were so uncomfortable. After 17 years, I finally bought a pair at Christmas (thanks Nordstrom sales lady who helped me try on every pair in the store!) They are still a novelty to me, but have been a complete blessing during our snowy cold Chicago winter.

P.S. to Snarkymommy - go a couple of blocks north of Southport Grocery to Sensational Bites - every bite in the store is orgasmic...

I was wrong about:

Being able to quit smoking at anytime-- it took me seven years, but I did it cold turkey.

Buffy (the TV show). Joss Whedon is my master now!

Neil Diamond. While he's not something I listen to in my free time, I do get that he's one of the great songwriters of the 20th century.

Designer jeans. Yes, I will spend $160 for a pair of jeans that are cut above my hipbones with a 34" inseam that make me feel like a sex goddess even if I have to hand-wash them and pre-emptively patch the crotch when I buy them. Mine finally blew out and I am absolutely bereft. Old Navy is NOT cutting it.

Kettle brand Spicy Thai chips. They are like manna from heaven.

Going to the gym. I really do feel better when I go, and my high school reunion is in 3 months, so I'd really better start going now that I'm at a new school with a better gym. I have to prove to everyone that not only was I not a lesbian (short haircut in a small school, combined with reading feminist theory gets a girl a reputation), I am effing hot and happy and have a wonderful life that does not involve phrases like "former meth addiction", "baby-daddy", or "tanning salon manager".

Oh, so many things.

It was wrong to spend so much non-reimbursable money at the chiropractor last year. And letting my husband let me do so.

I also was a late-blooming fan of CSI and Gilmore Girls. And Led Zeppelin. And CD players, cellphones, e-mail, the iPod ... Dancing with the Stars ... I no longer hold my nose at such fine examples of Western civilization.

I'm wondering if I was wrong to quit coffee -- I mean, I WAS drinking decaf, for god's sake.

I was wrong to fall for my doctor's all-too-quick suggestion that I go on Lexapro. No weight gain? Kiss my fat, flabby ass.

I was wrong to think I could cultivate a taste for olives. Blech.

I can't remember, but I think my husband would gladly volunteer specifics!

Ok...Ok...I might have been wrong about a couple of movies. Most recently, Prairie Home Companion. I was fast forwarding through it hoping it would get better.

I mean, it was worse that my husband's worse pick...Eye of the Beholder. I don't care if he did get to see her boob, it did not make up for the movie being that bad.

1. Raising teenagers is easy ( it's not and I hate anyone between the ages of 12 and 25, just to be safe)
2. That I would cook dinner and get my nails done once I got married
3. That I would lose the weight if it ever became an issue in the marriage
4. That I know what I want to be when I grow up
5. That I had a "real" family, like everyone else
6. That I was really really smart ( like Condoleeza or Oprah)
7. That black is slimming
8. That mustard is a known fat cutter
oh well, I'm a pretty good judge of character.I think.

I once had this weird urge to go back to my natural hair color, which is strawberry blonde. I HATED it! I felt so...orange!

I will probably pay for highlights forever.

I was wrong about Blogging! I just started last week and am steadily getting addicted. I might have to start taking my computer with when I leave the house!

I LOVED your books! Hilarious!

Tila Tequila - its sad really (for me) and the ending was predictable but it was good for relaxing after a long day.

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